Isn't It Incredible?

Yes It is and it feels so mesmerizing. It is breathtaking feeling almost. When?

When you are complacent!! When you are smug about the things that scared the life out of you at some juncture of your life.

You never thought you will grow confident, and look at you now not just confident but so astonishingly satisfied you have become, with all the things just remaining the same, the conditions, the people, and the only thing changing is your Attitude and times of course !

Isn't It really Incredible?

Ask to the one that use to fear everything then and now almost extremely dying for those same things.

It is such a lovely feeling when you smile just like that for no reason, when your heart confirms that you are so handsomely happy for the things that happened to you, all the So-Called BAD things as you say... Loneliness-Rejection-Denial and that big bundle of negative emotions including 'FEAR'. Something that daunted you every second of your life, something that didn't allow you to sleep, something that robbed the quiet and peace from your Life stulifying it so much that you almost reached the stage where you lost Every Hope, and you shuddered, you felt chills in your body! The people who didn't care to be with you that time, in your bad phase of life, no body looked up to you, no body called you, nobody messaged you, you lost touch with people you called "friends" and then ultimately you lost touch with yourself, and that time was so badly evil that you lost yourself, thoughts of ending your own life dwelt in your mind. You became a carcass.

And the worst thing,

NO BODY CARED.

Not when you were feeling alone and needed someone.

Not when you wanted to cry your heart out.

Not when you were expecting someone to turn up and accept you as you were.

Not when you wanted to speak.

Not when you wanted shoulders and a mere HUG

Not a statement saying "Gabra mat, main tere saath hun".

No, people weren't busy! Neither they were selfish! Nor was god being indifferent!

In fact, it was Him (The Ultimate One) who was watching this with utmost pleasure. And not only this He was the one who designed this for you, yes that loneliness, those fears, that trembling situation where you almost died not just once but millions of times.

Know why?

Because that was for 'YOU'. It was only then that you realized that trying to find your own happiness from people, from outside is such a BIG blunder you make, it is not going anywhere, because all you will be getting in return would be Indifference and a stupid empty feeling that "Nobody cares".

Then your heart closes for some time, and your logical brains start operating (Mine did). And then you realize that In pursuit of finding happiness all you got was 'Sadness'. And your approach was so wrong. How can you expect people to love you and accept you when in the first place you, yourself don't accept yourself?

Stop being so harsh on yourself...

You need power to Love yourself first (Because if you can't How come others will) Accept yourself, Accept your faults, Understand you are not perfect because nobody can be. Introspect within for what went wrong? Stop relying on people to know yourself. Know for yourself, understand yourself and decide things on your own.

How can someone hurt you and tell you who you are without your permission?

The bad thing is people often do this and they won't stop it. The fact is you have to stop. You have to stop taking their judgments so seriously, Just don't pay the heed to what they say about you (Ultimately you know yourself, and what you think of yourself matters and not what others think of you)

Take the shit from people almost smilingly and when they turn back, Bury that over that place and just Move on ...Because there are so many other important things that you are supposed to do rather than this shit.

Be confident about what you are doing is right if it is that what your heart says you to do.

People are people, they are made to hurt you in some way or other, but your attitude would change everything. You could use that Condemn to hurt yourself and as source of your tears, and other way round you can use it as source of your own motivation to move ahead.

Yep its your choice, Seriously all these bad things happen to you to make you aware about you and your own strengths. It is actually that simple.

Stop Crying. What happened just happened! You have got no control over the past but future.

You can change things now, You can make things work for you your way, Be serene, Be calm, make peace with yourself, love that tender heart inside you which is craving to get love, once your own heart is satisfied, you will have overflow of love, and then others would be getting that love too, once they get it, they can't resist loving you back, respecting you, respecting your opinions, and accepting you so cordially. 

So ultimately you got what you want and how ? Just by changing your attitude towards your life, towards your problems, towards other people. 

It happened with me as well, Even I was alone, Even I was Rejected, Even I had my share in shedding tears, Even I wanted things that time which weren't granted to me, But Now?

Now I have got gazillion reasons to Thank god,  It just happened when I changed My attitude, It just happened when I tried to Understand myself and I started working on my shortcomings, On my fears.

I stopped judging myself,  I worked on the things I was already good at, and on the things I was surprisingly bad, I stopped myself from knowing just everything, I adopted minimalist approach of life,  I tried to smile,  I tried to be happy with just what I had,  I tried to find reasons to be thankful towards everything and everyone, I moved out of my shell,  I came out of my comfort zone and did things that generally I would easily get away with,  I put in efforts to speak to people,  I was considered A reticent before and Now I am the greatest of Blabbermouths that people know of.

And Finally I was sorted one day, I was so happy after meeting myself. It was such a Beautiful journey of knowing myself, I Started incessantly Thanking to all people who weren't there with me when I needed them, because then I couldn't have got the World's Biggest Gift - "Me"

And Now, I revel in my Life, Even In my fears, even when I am having a Downfall because its all for Good I have known this over the years of loneliness

I dance in delight. I am carefree; I welcome Problems so I can discover one more new aspect about myself.

I am friendly and warmer than before, I search for the opportunities to help someone with something today,

I Celebrate Myself every day! I thank god for making me what I am today, I never in my life thought I could 

Ever wake up smiling, just be happy without any reason, Keep Faith, Act Confident

But all of these Presents which looked impossible once, came to me in the nicest way possible, they knocked on my door one day and I kept them forever, and now they are stuck to my 'Soul'

So, if you are in a situation where you feel there is nobody who loves you, Remember There is God who always does, and he always will! Don't Lose Hope, have some faith in Yourself, Pull up your socks once again, Cry for some time, and then pick up those pieces of your lovely heart and move on with it, Give your life a New direction, work on your skills and your flaws, and once again the day will come when you will SHINE and shine so sparklingly that everybody will see!! You will be happy without people, without anything but yourself, that happiness will last till eternity because you accidentally clicked that "Super-Abundant-Happy' button in your heart, and now the procreation of it would never stop !! But that's what you wanted No? Of course...


So If my Life could change, Why can't yours? trust me It will... 

Just start loving yourself, because that's the core step

All I observe myself asking often now is “Isn't It Incredible"?

And then I smile in a smug satisfaction which answers this question J

Thanks for reading…

LOVE,

Jay

A Road Leading to Nowhere !!

Hie Readers! J

Warning: This post is very descriptive in nature and thus very lengthy. Read only if you are prepared.

C'mon mujhe dekhne de kiska message aaya hai?

Oh shit ! Download last minute pe ruk gaya !!!

Dekh toh kaun online hai !!

Itne saare "Likes", bhai ki toh nikal padi yaar !!

Isne mera status like nahin kiya abi tak! huh! 

You gotta see this new app, its like magic!

Oye saare apps automatically update ho rahe hain !!

Inbox full ho rakha hai yaar !!!

My internet Speed Sucks mahn !!

Whatsapp ke group mein dekh kaun kaun converse kar rahe hain !

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat???????????

What is happening to this World? Or better I should ask what has happened to this World?

Seriously what's wrong! How did they replace that playground with something called "FACEBOOK" & "WHATSAPP"

How did they forget their memories with old friends in the midst of online friends?

How could they! 

When did suddenly this 'Whatsapp' shit happen?

I’m sorry I called this shit, I can understand your feelings towards it, after all this is your 'Life'.

When did poking, playing with each other turned to what people call "ANGRY BIRDS" today!

Okay to portray in simple words I would say:

That hide & seek we use to play in our childhood, we are still playing it but, now it is a virtual game!

All I’m flabbergasted with is "How Smartphones changed us, almost all of us?

How did they come to us, and bewitched us?

How did they start controlling our every emotion and action?

When did they become more important than our friends?

The only thing that I know is they shouldn't have. They should not anymore.

Smartphones were made to make social life easier, but, according to me they have made it even worse.

Great Social-Networking-Sites like Facebook were designed for Individuals to come in contact with other Individuals. Is their mission successful?

Partly. Because people these days who are using these sites have fallen into the wrong idea that they should only make friends with people with who they are already in contact personally. I say what's the use?

Okay I don't mind. But why to kill possibilities of finding new friends. After all that's called SOCIAL-NETWORKING-SITE and not ADD-ALL-THE-KNOWN-PEOPLE-SITE.

It is okay to add anybody, anyone is liberal to do anything but I have problem with only those people who find it ridiculous to add new people and make new friends just because they have bundle of old friends.

For me it has become a 'pattern'

Found New Profile.

Requested to connect.

Request Accepted.

Me : "Hi this is Jay looking for New Friends to share some interesting moments with".

Other : "Hmm". That’s good.

Me : "So what do you do"?

Other : Explained. And asked me the same.

Me : What're your hobbies?

Other : Replied and asked about mine.

Then some clichéd questions, and boring inquires

Sharing Of numbers: DONE

Contacting each other: NEVER

Online Chat: Once in a year or may be twice for few minutes.

Any Difference In each other's lives: Not even negligible.

So why did we become "Friends”?

To like each other's posts, photos, see the check-ins?

Certainly not. At least I wanted to chat, know each other well, meet each other, make difference in each other's life by staying, hanging out with each other, spending some time in a Month if not in a week, Dinners, lunches, Get-together, Parties and many more things.

I wanted you to be with me when I feel low, and you ended up liking my Facebook update that "I’m feeling Sad"

I wanted you to admire me for few of the things I’m good at, you never cared to comment on my achievements.

I wanted you to meet me, you never did. You always found an excuse of being busy.

You said you will give me a call back once you are free, you never did.

We became friends on Facebook; we never became friends in REAL God-Damn-It.

We met online almost regularly, we never met in real.

Question : So what's the use of having a Facebook account?

Answer : Deactivated It.

Why this happens?

I believe people these days have turned very selfish. Sorry not just selfish but, Brutally Selfish.

They already have their own friends with whom they hangout, they already have their own groups with whom they can have fun, have meals together, converse and everything. No problem. But why to give others an idea that you are up for making new friends when in reality you just don't need anyone because you already have so many people around you.

When would they understand that any random stranger could be a best friend! And their best buddies even were once strangers. So why not give a try? It breaks monotony.  It brings some fresh surprises. It adds new energy to your life. It will give you a new perspective to your thinking. 

But failure of understanding these things makes this situation dull and uninspiring.

It’s Sad. It’s pathetic. It’s time-killing. Because it has turned nothing-but-the-pattern.

This was about Facebook, Now, back to smartphones, back to Whatsapp, back to earphones, and back to what you call "Life". I call it 'E-Life' (The Virtual Life)

This E-life has changed you as a person. This Virtual Life of yours has blinded you.

It wants to help you. And alongside, it is attracting you completely. It wants your complete attention, and you like a fool giving it.

In this you aren't realizing what you might be losing gradually?

You might be losing your potential friends. You might be losing Real Conversations. You might be losing that sheer fun that others are having. You are definitely missing nature's amazing gifts.

You are constantly on 'Whatsapp' chatting with one or many at times. You say you enjoy doing this. Indeed its great to connect to those who are far away.

 But every time?

                      While in a bus, cab...

                                                                    While in College...

  While Studying...                 

                                                                                                   While Eating...

                                     While Travelling...

                                                                              While Working...

While swimming even you can't keep your eyes off your mobile screen

While in a restaurant with your friends or family

While you are in some social gathering

During some festive time

During some religious occasion.

In the Morning. In the day. In the Evening. Before you go to bed.

Just Every time!

and ignoring all the other things, ignoring all the real meetings with those people with who you are chatting. Aren't you overusing it?

The real bonds are not made through some app, they are created once you meet someone and allow them to be part of yours. Bonds are cultivated, and nourished for years, not through the chatting but connection of hearts.

Preference is a different thing, but Addiction !?

I understand you really feel good when you use your smartphones for hours, playing those HD games provides you with fun and entertainment. Those applications in Playstore and ios store give you reason to live. That's completely okay if you keep it up till this but, you don't. Even when you meet each other, you forget about everything but discuss applications, showing the stuff you have downloaded, discussing whatsapp conversations, How can this be okay ? How could you forget about your own life ? your own friends ? And because of what? because of the thing you call “Smartphone”.

Addiction is not healthy. And the most dangerous one is this electronic addiction which is no less than a drug.

All you are doing is talking and talking and not having the conversation. All you now know is how to reply to the texts.

Where would it take you?

Isn't it already wasting so much of your time (given that you aren't meeting those people in real).

You have grown so dependent on it that even few hours of not using your mobile phone make you feel frustrated, and you become mad on others.

You start expecting so much from those online friends who are just not doing anything other than chatting.

And the other time when you aren't chatting, your eyes are glued to the computer screen or your smartphone and you are busy playing games, downloading apps, or most commonly these days i.e. editing your pics in various image editing applications again for those social networking sites in a pursuit of getting more and more "Likes"

Even the gossips have turned to "E-gossips" !

The worst part is you are deceiving each other. You are showing what you are not!

You say what others want to hear, you show what others want to see and not what you want to show.

Writing "kewl' won't make you look "Cool" or Addressing with "brada' won't make the other person your Real brother.

And That Plugged-In life?

When travelling in trains, you prefer to listen to your favourite songs rather than enjoying the journey, and making connections. For every 5 minutes you spend on listening to music in those "Headphones" you are killing many chances of observing something fascinating around you. You think everything around is 'Bullshit' It might be something very enchanting and useful. If you just put those headphones in your bag for some time and just have a look what others are doing, just smile to the ones who are not looking very happy or looking upset, it might make their day if it doesn't do any good to you, the other person might get impressed with your smile and you guys end up being best of friends. Isn't it possible? Not just possible, it is in fact probable.

I’m not against using the smartphones or social networking sites, except at the cost of life.

Doing what is fruitful is wisdom.

Don't just get absorbed into it so much that you forget almost everything around you. 

I know its really fascinating to be online, chat with people, share pics, your life's various incidents, and blah blah blah..., But life devoid of smartphones is indeed great too. Just give it a try.

Here is how you should go about it?

Note : The following piece-of-advice is very disheartening, and extremely difficult to follow. Please read at your own risk.

• Switch off your mobile for some hours of the day. And Spend time with yourself, just with yourself.
• Discontinue your internet plan for a week.(168 hours).
• Put your headphones in your bag for a major part of the day.
• Try to overcome the urge to get new updates for your favourite applications and games for a few days.
• Completely avoid using your cellphone when you are meeting someone even a friend,
• Try to convince others about not using their smartphones for some days (I understand how it feels; when someone is doing the stuff that you are refrained to do).

The above things are difficult because now you are so much addicted to them that mere a thought of living without these electronic ingredients spoil your mood already, makes you feel helpless. 

But the only way to overcome the dependence is to be independent.

Soon you will witness following things:

• Boredom.
• Occasional Frustration.
• More time in hands.
• More scrutinizing over options to enjoy.
• Exploration of new things.
• Cultivation of new hobbies.
• Realization of your passion.
• Generation of innovative ideas.
• Increased sense of living.
• Increased Self-satisfaction.

And Finally,

• Feeling of being STUPID.

Why?

You will feel so mesmerized after doing these things, that all other things including spending time on internet and with your smartphone would seem totally meaningless. You will feel more liberating without these things and would want this feeling to stay with you forever.

And Hence,

You-will-be-Cured !!!!

Sounds So easy?

Really ! Ask those addicts and they will make you cry just by that expression of helplessness over their face.

So this is something that I very firmly am against it. I myself was part of it at some point of time, but not with such involvement, but still I chosen to come out of it as soon as possible, I Feel thankful to myself, because I can breathe, I can go out, I could enjoy the cool breeze on the streets, I can eat without any disturbances or any Facebook notifications, I can talk to someone paying full attention, I have no more diversions and I could concentrate on what I m doing. I can live in a moment fully !

This feels great. This feels utterly beautiful. 
Just leave this E-world behind for sometime and come with me in real world. I promise you, you will pride on what you did.

Thanks for reading…

LOVE,

Jay

One Side, but the other!

One Side of me wants to run away badly, the other one wants to stay back and watch everything passively!

One Side of me wants to solve those riddles of life, the other one is waiting for answers to get unfolded itself.

One Side of me is ready for a fresh start, the other one is just too tired to do that.

One Side of me feels defeated, the other one is too reluctant to give up.

One Side of me is craving to speak, the other one is intensely wanting silence.

One Side of me is so certain that this is temporary, the other one is just feeling unfair.

One Side of me is feeling torpid, the other one is still vividly alive.

One Side of me feels envious, the other one feels fortunate.

One Side of me feels so uneasy, the other one feels so composed.

One Side of me knows what's missing, the other one is just too nescient.

One Side of me feels being watched, the other one feels being disregarded.

One Side of me has a good deal of optimism, the other one is sumptuously rich with negativity.

One Side of me wants to wail, the other one is unable to shed tears.

One Side of me knows that love could heal, the other one just feels its unavailing.

One Side of me wants to try one more time, the other one is too jaded to give-in.

One Side of me wants to leave it to Almighty, the other one feels it is too illogical.

One Side of me is going with the flow, the other is absolutely handicapped.

One Side of me is still hopeful, the other one is heart-sick forever!

P.S - This is Life, This is Me...Sometimes I feel I So know it, but sometimes I feel I know nothing about myself and this thing called- life.

Those Various Nights !!

I remember those various nights very clearly…

And being lover of darkness, I love night time more than any other time of the day.

I love Darkness. I often wish the night would never end. I sometimes never wish to see the morning the next day, but just enjoy the serenity of night when everyone else is sleeping in their own cocoon, and there is nobody to disturb me, I'm pleased with silence. I find myself thinking about my past, and various things I did in the past, I think about my desires and aspirations, I don't worry about the future that time because I like to believe that this night is never getting over so I have too much time to think and live it fully and in the way I want to...

But this never happens, as soon as I sleep, all at once I feel morning has arrived bringing those daily chores with it, bringing those daily schedules, that daily catalogue of prosy tasks that I have to complete, those so-called duties that I am supposed to fulfill..

Nevertheless, I'm blessed with the unusual memory powers and the visualization adroitness that let me enjoy my life as it is and I always like to believe there is yet Best to happen.

Talking about the Nights here reminds me of various different nights that I have ever spent till the date at different places other than my very own HOME.

The extremely beautiful thing about each of them is their peculiarity and extraordinary charm.

I remember those nights when I use to sleep on the terrace of my old house with all of my family members and relatives, when we, the children use to enjoy on our own, sitting on that half wall discussing everything under this sun, mainly about the school and toys, while our mommies use to gather to discuss various gossips of the day, and our daddies use to sit together discussing their profession and business things. Everyone was just so busy in their selves

It was so relaxing, with that I remember that heavy dinner had with those delicious mangoes and that eagerness to catch up with each other after finishing our supper. We use to look forward to it. There was no worry. There was no past, no future. It was just present then. It was delighting!!! I still remember that smell of the atmosphere, I could still clearly feel that Excitement of playing on the next day and the next night altogether, endless plans we use to make!!!

Even few of the nights that I spent at my maternal grandmother’s were wondrous. That night of the cool breeze with that extreme hot glass of milk that my masi use to give me before sleep. The milk tasted different there, its taste was unique. I, my mother and my two masis use to sleep together at terrace, and they always use to talk over petty issues like their new dresses they bought, or the new home equipments, they use to argue and even verbally fight on trivial matters. And in the next moment support each other for piddling victories. They were truly unpredictable. And I, use to hear those gossips and laugh uncontrollably over the humorous remarks they use to make. It was a fun experience!!That stay over there was refreshing due to summer vacations.

Some of the nights I spent with few of my tuition mates, Namely Aakash, Bhavesh, and Manish for "Studies". We use to end up doing everything except studies, As soon as we use to meet after dinner at someone's house we use to plan what is to be done and what is there to be completed till morning. Further watching Tv, lots of masti, and pranks we finally use to sleep, promising each other that we would study after midnight, making those alarms and waking each other up next morning and having failed to do so, use to go back to sleep again. And then finally early morning waking up for that very much required "Cup of tea" and going back to our respective homes again. It may seem useless, but we enjoyed those conversations, those funny moments, that concern for each other in studies only though. It is nostalgic, and sometimes I smile remembering all this. I'm sure it would never come back because it is just possibly me who remember all this. Whatever but “IT-IS-MEMORABLE"

Besides this, the other Amazing nights were those when I stayed back at my aunt's. It was in Himmatnagar at a distance of 70 miles from my home. My father's sister, we call her baby since childhood. Funnily I use to call this place "Babynagar". It was my vacation when I went there. Though I wasn't prepared for it because before that I never stayed at her place but then I felt excited to try this, and besides I was too bored from my city as all my friends were away from Ahmedabad to enjoy their holidays. So I finally reached there with my bags full of clothes and other things. They live in a joint family with too many cousins and their elder aunt whom they address as "Bhabhi" and their elder uncle as "Kaka". Initially I was hesitant to talk to every one of them other than my cousins, but with just two three days of staying with them filled me with uttermost joy and excitement. I started feeling like my own home. They started enjoying my company too, I use to share with them various Ahmedabad incidents, I use to imitate one of my paternal aunts, and tell them the situations when she uses Sindhi + Hindi in a very amusing way which would bring giggles of laughter among them. They made perfect delicious Aam-Ka-ras within minutes which was mouth-watering and every day I just couldn't have less than two full bowls of it. Besides that ultra-luscious "Chai-with-elaichi-powder" that they made every hour of the day was perfectly palatable to me, Of course I'm a great "Chai-Ka-fan" I use go with cousins of my cousins to their workplaces and they took care of me like their own brother, They made me enjoy different places in their areas, parks, restaurants etc.

See, the joy within me came back to life that I discussed everything here other than nights!! Of course if day could be so much fun, the night has to be equally enjoyable. They cook delicious food and take extra care of their meals that consist of no. of things, like salad, curds, pickles, Aam-ka-ras, papads, at least two sabzis, which was again very inviting. I use to immensely enjoy the meals there, and after having my dinner, I use to go on a walk by a nearby street with my cousin and their cousins for normal conversations and a Dessert. Can anyone ask for anything more? I feel not. That was like complete to me! There was a certain bond that had been created between me and everyone in their family. Bhabhie use to take me to market where she would meet with her other friends and gossip and buy vegetables. Besides, I use to roam on a cycle with cousins of my cousins, Strangely I felt connected to them even more than my own cousins. They were fun-loving and great foodie like me. I remember those nights when after all this I finally use to go to terrace, after changing into night clothes and two pillows and have a chat with 'Baby' about my day and other things before sleeping and then a cool breeze would set everybody to deep sleep.

This is something very close to my heart, because I know how much I enjoyed my stay there which lasted for merely 10 days and seemed like forever. I came back home after ten days, and I was missing them, and they were missing me too. It was a totally immeasurable fun.

Other than these, there were nights spent with my cousin "BITTU" at my home and her home too. She would converse with me unendingly about random things, she was the most humorous person I ever knew that time, she would treat me with love and affection and hug me all now and then, sleeping next to her was like relaxing, she would tell me her stories about her life, and how one day she will have to leave me after marriage, the time eventually came, it is years now since we talked more than 10 minutes, strangely marriage change girls drastically, I wish just a girl in her would have changed and not my sister. 

There were other nights when because of rain we would quickly come back from terrace downstairs to complete the sleep during midnight, it was so irritating because it would interrupt our sleep but so pleasing because of the possibility of sleeping for hours more before it was morning.

There were other nights when I didn't sleep, kept thinking about common things.

There were other nights when I studied from the notes given by my tuition teacher for my exams, sitting in a balcony.

There were other nights when I worried extremely about my homework given by my class teacher which I hadn't done.

There were other nights when world was just what we could see that time with our own eyes.

The other nights when I enjoyed with gas balloons for hours.

The other nights when I wondered endlessly seeing the moonlight.

The other nights when I would enjoy sounds of thunderstorms of rain, secretly wishing for school closure the next morning.

So these are the nights that I still enjoy in my thinking, in my little heart. It is so easy to travel back to these times and places in your head, but so impossible in reality.

I enjoyed writing this. It brought flood of memories back altogether.

Thanks for reading!!

Love

Jay...

Acceptance is Everything !!

Readers !!

 Hope you doing good !! 

And everyone wants that thing. Everyone does everything in a way to obtain that thing. There is nobody devoid of this urge to relish this feeling.

What it is?

It is ACCEPTANCE.

Yes! Truly everybody loves the feeling of getting accepted. Everyone endlessly looks for the approval of his thoughts, his mindset, his doings, his feelings, so that he could approve this everything himself.

Ego is a strange thing. We know ourselves so much yet we don't know. We are so sure about something and in the next moment possibly so unsure about it.

Acceptance is indeed indispensable element in life. For me another word for Friendship is "Acceptance"

How can this be so important?

Human beings can't live alone. They always need someone around. They need constant support from other people. They need reminders that they are Good, And unique at least in something.

They look for various things/people all through their lives. Their search seems to be endless though their life doesn't. In this Race & Rush of things, deep down everyone actually wants just one thing and that is "Acceptance". Yes it is that needed.

Just imagine you are having an hard day

And deep-plunged into thoughts of what is happening? What's wrong?

Then comes someone who says “Hey! What's up!  Oh god! Are you still over that thing? Oh C'mon Dude Forget it. Mistakes happen. It is not worth thinking on that. I know you will make it that way... You are Actual good. Trust me on this! And if it doesn't work out I'm always here..next to you! Just chill.

Sigh!!! 

Though Your problem is still not solved but there is Relief!

Why?

Because certain person assured you that you will make it. In another words Accepted you as you are!

It is so good to do something so little for someone having impact on his mindset which is so HUGE.

This is Magic of Acceptance!!

Accept the things as they are. Accept different people as they are. We will have complains with everybody and always. But voicing it every time isn't necessary. Instead, if you want to change something about someone do it other way round.  Let's say if you don't like certain habit/quality of someone. Just don't attack them by mocking or with comments of contempt. It never works! Ask me :P

It is very easy. Just accept them. Appreciate their 10 other qualities that you like and tell them that you absolutely love those habits of them. And then say except this one that "you always are late". The impact of this Not-so-direct-yet-so-direct-method would be surprising! The other person will give it a serious thought why? Because now they are assured that you love them, and that you actually appreciate them for many other things. He will crave for appreciation for this thing too. He would become eager to get accepted fully by you. And eventually he will rectify this error, or fulfill this shortcoming..

Thing is done! And in fact this way you won another person's respect too.

And even if you don't want to get something out of someone. Acceptance is an exceptional gift that you can give to someone and they are surely going to love it.

Acceptance is a great thing. It satisfies someone's hungry senses, making him confident and liberal which will help him to be more natural and compliant towards you.

Just accept people. Don't go on making those assumptions about them, Don't blame them for anything which is because it doesn't work so there is nothing fruitful in that. Moreover you might have done the same thing/reacted same as he did/took the same decision that he took if you were in his shoes. You never know!

Acceptance will open those hidden doors for you; Acceptance will always bring positivity and eagerness in others. It would induce greeting and pleasure in someone's heart for you which is exactly what you wish to have.

Furthermore,

Why not try to be selfless sometimes?

It is so good to listen to someone's stories, their problems, their life's happenings and then accepting them and providing them with full assurance of what they are doing is thoroughly commendable. 

It's so good to have people around who know how we are. They are fully aware about our thought-process, our life's events, and our background and still choose to be with us that to so readily. It definitely feels pleasing and winsome altogether because we feel accepted.

Just do something extra to make someone feel good.

Just walk that extra mile to make someone realize that you care.

Just say those extra little appreciating words to make someone smile.

Just reply to someone's texts in detail sometimes, loaded with those extra smileys.

Just show tinge of concern for people who are feeling helpless.

Just ask for the refill of 'chai ka cup' to talk more with someone. He/She will feel delighted!!

Just care to ask someone about his/her day to show him that he/she is important.

Just take time to call them and ask them if they are okay or if need something.

Just try to genuinely admire someone's quality it could be her looks, her dressing style or her cooking skills or her wittiness, just anything!

Just take his/her hands in yours and squeeze it and assure them everything will be alright. Just tell them to trust their self, ask them to have hope, tell them they could do it and hug them telling them you are an amazing person! They will feel real good because they can count on you because you accept them!

It just takes these extra tiny efforts to do something special for someone, but the impact it has on another person is tremendous in itself.

So next time when you want to surprise someone positively, Remember ACCEPT THEM!

There is no charm like one which ACCEPTANCE has!!

Getting accepted is the greatest hidden urge within human-being which needs to be understood and satisfied.

Thanks for reading! 

Love 

      Jay...