Readers !!
Hope you doing good !!
And everyone wants that thing. Everyone does everything in a way
to obtain that thing. There is nobody devoid of this urge to relish this
feeling.
What it is?
It is ACCEPTANCE.
Yes! Truly everybody loves the feeling of getting accepted. Everyone endlessly looks for the approval of his thoughts, his mindset, his doings, his feelings, so that he could approve this everything himself.
Ego is a strange thing. We know ourselves so much yet we don't know. We are so sure about something and in the next moment possibly so unsure about it.
Acceptance is indeed indispensable element in life. For me another word for Friendship is "Acceptance"
How can this be so important?
Human beings can't live alone. They always need someone around. They need constant support from other people. They need reminders that they are Good, And unique at least in something.
They look for various things/people all through their lives. Their search seems to be endless though their life doesn't. In this Race & Rush of things, deep down everyone actually wants just one thing and that is "Acceptance". Yes it is that needed.
Just imagine you are having an hard day
And deep-plunged into thoughts of what is happening? What's wrong?
Then comes someone who says “Hey! What's up! Oh god! Are you still over that thing? Oh C'mon Dude Forget it. Mistakes happen. It is not worth thinking on that. I know you will make it that way... You are Actual good. Trust me on this! And if it doesn't work out I'm always here..next to you! Just chill.
Sigh!!!
Though
Your problem is still not solved but there
is Relief!
Why?
Because
certain person assured you that you will make it. In another words Accepted you
as you are!
It is so good to do something so little for someone having impact on his mindset which is so HUGE.
This is Magic of Acceptance!!
Accept the things as they are. Accept different people as they are. We will have complains with everybody and always. But voicing it every time isn't necessary. Instead, if you want to change something about someone do it other way round. Let's say if you don't like certain habit/quality of someone. Just don't attack them by mocking or with comments of contempt. It never works! Ask me :P
It is very easy. Just accept them. Appreciate their 10 other qualities that you like and tell them that you absolutely love those habits of them. And then say except this one that "you always are late". The impact of this Not-so-direct-yet-so-direct-method would be surprising! The other person will give it a serious thought why? Because now they are assured that you love them, and that you actually appreciate them for many other things. He will crave for appreciation for this thing too. He would become eager to get accepted fully by you. And eventually he will rectify this error, or fulfill this shortcoming..
Thing is done! And in fact this way you won another person's respect too.
And even if you don't want to get something out of someone. Acceptance is an exceptional gift that you can give to someone and they are surely going to love it.
Acceptance
is a great thing. It satisfies someone's hungry senses, making him confident
and liberal which will help him to be more natural and compliant towards you.
Just
accept people. Don't go on making those assumptions about them, Don't blame
them for anything which is because it doesn't work so there is nothing fruitful
in that. Moreover you might have done the same thing/reacted same as he
did/took the same decision that he took if you were in his shoes. You never
know!
Acceptance
will open those hidden doors for you; Acceptance will always bring positivity
and eagerness in others. It would induce greeting and pleasure in someone's
heart for you which is exactly what you wish to have.
Furthermore,
Why not try to be selfless sometimes?
It is so good to listen to someone's stories, their problems, their life's happenings and then accepting them and providing them with full assurance of what they are doing is thoroughly commendable.
It's so
good to have people around who know how we are. They are fully aware about our
thought-process, our life's events, and our background and still choose to be
with us that to so readily. It definitely feels pleasing and winsome altogether
because we feel accepted.
Just do something extra to make someone feel good.
Just walk that extra mile to make someone realize that you care.
Just say those extra little appreciating words to make someone smile.
Just reply to someone's texts in detail sometimes, loaded with those extra smileys.
Just show tinge of concern for people who are feeling helpless.
Just ask for the refill of 'chai ka cup' to talk more with someone. He/She will feel delighted!!
Just care to ask someone about his/her day to show him that he/she is important.
Just take time to call them and ask them if they are okay or if need something.
Just try to genuinely admire someone's quality it could be her looks, her dressing style or her cooking skills or her wittiness, just anything!
Just take his/her hands in yours and squeeze it and assure them everything will be alright. Just tell them to trust their self, ask them to have hope, tell them they could do it and hug them telling them you are an amazing person! They will feel real good because they can count on you because you accept them!
It just
takes these extra tiny efforts to do something special for someone, but the
impact it has on another person is tremendous in itself.
So next
time when you want to surprise someone positively, Remember ACCEPT THEM!
There is
no charm like one which ACCEPTANCE has!!
Getting
accepted is the greatest hidden urge within human-being which needs to be
understood and satisfied.
Thanks
for reading!
Love
Jay...
